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Bhagat Singh as a young boy and young man

'A psychiatrist is a person who will give you expensive answers that your
wife will give you for free.'

Playboy to be out early as nude LiLo photos leak

Kirsty Playboy is to release its Jan/Feb issue early after nude pictures of Lindsay Lohan leaked online, boss Hugh Hefner said.

Jennifer Hottest woman

Jennifer Aniston has been named the 'Hottest Woman of All Time' in a magazine poll, beating Marilyn Monroe, Madonna and Angelina Jolie. She, however, puts French actress Bridgitte Bardot and feminist Gloria Steinem at the top of her personal list.

World's shortest woman

Nagpur girl Jyothi Amge, who stands just over two feet tall, has been officially declared the world's shortest woman.

JLo to sell jewels gifted by ex-hubby

Jennifer Lopez is selling of all the jewellery Marc Anthony gave her during their seven year marriage. The 42-year-old singer is even said to want to get rid of her stunning $4 million rare blue 8.5 carat diamond ring, in a bid to make a fresh start.

Teeth tale

Rumours Kate Middleton, duchess of Cambridge underwent dental surgery and her teeth were deliberately made 'not too perfect' so that she could have a 'natural healthy smile, but not an artificial one' according to a French dentist.

Perry, Brand eye India

Perry and Brand plan a trip to spice up their relationship. British comedian Russell brand and his singer wife Katy Perry are reportedly planning a romantic trip to India, where they got married in Oct last year, in a bid to spice up their relationship. 

New Malaysian taxis for women

Malaysia has introduced taxis for women, driven by women, in a bid to reduce the number of rape and robbery cases involving cab drivers and female victims.

Paris Hilton shells out $300,000 for Ferrari

Paris Hilton has bought herself a brand new 2012 California Spyder Ferrari worth $300,000. The red sports car was delivered to her Los Angeles home.

Jennifer Lopez's renowned rear

Jennifer Lopez's renowned rear is allegedly insured for $27 million. Known more for her famously rounded behind than her acting or singing skills, it is no surprise that JLo has got her best assets insured. 

Lady Gaga posed nude 

Pop sensation Lady Gaga says she posed nude for singer Tony Bennett, so that he could draw her. The singer has revealed she posed nude so the 55-year-old crooner could draw pictures of her.

Bunchan-Brady world's richest celebrity couple

Brazilian super model Gisele Bunchan and her football player husband Tom Brady have been named the world's wealthiest celebrity couple.

Gwyneth Paltrow, 38, goes topless

Actor Gwyneth Paltrow has posed topless for a US magazines. The 38-year-old star, who has stripped of for the saucy photo shoot appears with just a pair of black fishnet type and bauble for a special jewellery supplement in Vanity Fair's August issue.        

Tips

Eat onions to reduce cellulite. They have a diuretic effect, which releases the excess water from skin cells.

Quote

"Hearing is with the ears, but listening is with the mind.”

Humour

Boobs & Asses

Mom: Didn't I tell u that if a guy touches your ASS say DON'T, and if he touches your BOOBS say STOP!

Sandra: But mom he touched both, so I said DON'T STOP..!!!  

News Scan

World's largest emerald up for auction for $1.15mn

The world's largest cut emerald is set to go up for auction and is expected to fetch $1.15 million. The 57,500 carat stone, which is the size of a watermelon, is scheduled to be a auctioned off by Western Star. Auctions in British Columbia. The gem named Teodara was found in Brazil and cut in India.

Golden memories

He was the last Portuguese to wed Goan girl during colonial rule. Carlos Aberto Felgueiras was takn a prisoner of war 5 days after his marriage to Ana Bela Oliveira Pegado as Goa was liberated from Portuguese rule on Dec 19, 1961. He was freed 4 months on and left the country soon. On their 50th wedding anniversary, the couple will pray in the church where they married and party with friends and her relatives. 

Bengaluru - best Indian city to live in

The southern technology hub Bengaluru has emerged as the best city to live in India, as per the global survey compiled by 'Quality of Living Survey - Worldwide Rankings, 2011 by the global HR consultancy major Mercer. However, globally in terms of standard of living Bengaluru is at 141st position in a list of 221 cities across the world, followed by New Delhi (143rd), Mumbai (144th), Chennai (150th) and Kolkata (151st).

Taj Mahal diamond gets record Rs 47cr

The rock-owned by Jahangir and passed on to Shah Jahan, was one of he highlights in an auction of actor Elizabeth Taylor's jewellery. The auction also set a record for raking in the most moolah for a single jewellery collection.

Tagore notebook goes for Rs 91 lakh

A notebook of Nobel laureate Rabinranath Tagore, datin to 1928 and containing his poems and other works, fetched $170,500 (about Rs 91 lakh) at a Sotheby's auction. The previously unknown notebook, which was estimated to fetch $150,000-250,000, contained 12 poems and lyrics for as many songs in Bengali, including some heavily amended drafts of his subsequently published works.

Dowry demand

Offenders face three years jail under law. Dowry demand is an offence punishable under section 498A of the Indian Penal Code. A police FIR can be lodged against the groom and his family members. The crime attracts a maximum imprisonment of 3 years. It also attracts provisions of the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act 2005. Gifts given by parents at the time of marrying or thereafter without any coercion or demand does not amount to dowry/cruelty.

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Mind your language

Displayed on a board in Kerala

Thottathil Food House.

'Kerala Style Chinese'

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Books

Book Launch at Goa

Ratan: Diaries of a Doctor, an autobiography by renowned Gynaecologist from Goa , Dr Ratan Srikrishna Naik has been released. The book gives brief and illuminating glimpses of the life of a young girl born in an orthodox Hindu Saraswat Brahmin family who goes on to become Goa's first lady FRCS doctor, in pre-liberation Goa... An extraordinary account of a remarkable life which is both delightful and inspiring. Published by Sapna Sardessai ( Printers Devil). Available at leading book stores.

Authorised Biography on Kalathur Shekar Babu Shetty

Announcing a tell-all biography, in which Shekar Babu Shetty reveals about his relationship with his parents and siblings. It covers his arduous journey from Kalathur, near Udupi, Karnataka in India to Bombay and from there to Gulf in a dhow in the early seventies. His struggles and rise from an office clerk to become the ‘Udupi King’, pioneer and owner of the Arab Udupi Group running a chain of restaurants large scale catering in UAE.

Mumbai-based Editor/Author A K Naik has written the biography, ‘From the dust in Kalathur to the sands in Arabia ’. The Foreword to the book has been written by his Excellency M K Lokesh, the Indian Ambassador to the UAE. The book will be released soon.

Facts

On average women can hear better than men.

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THE BINDI BIKINI BRIGADE IS HERE

Nudity packaged in tradition is much more shocking.…

Nudity when packaged in something traditional, makes for a far more controversial frame. This kind of packaging depends on common selling sense and there are few who’ve cracked the code. There are only some to have happily stepped out of the bikini race and hit a sweet spot with traditional sensuality.

This Kamasutra nude chic is not only shocking but also aesthetically more appealing.

contestants of Khatron Ki Khiladi 4 . It’s the marrying of the conservative with the outrageous that stamps a lasting impression. A bikini somehow can’t send the same signal of shock as a traditional, virginal piece of clothing can. Much like Sila Sahin who sent a clear and deliberate message to her conservative Turkish family. It was not so much the exposed breast, but the conservatively draped loin cloth that makes the picture even more outrageous. It’s like she’s playing with tradition itself, using it to mask and reveal what she likes. The picture is creating quite an uproar in the West and not because it’s unlike a regular Playboy cover in terms of nudity, but because of what’s being played with.

There’s a sense of risk and rebellion in a picture with a traditional piece of clothing that is usually used to cover up than reveal, which does not exist in wearing a swimsuit. A swimsuit only reveals a very fit and toned body, but a picture which has a conservative piece of clothing or accessorising shows a certain aspect of the subject’s personality.

Following the magazine hitting the stands, Sila Sahin quickly gave quotes about how liberating it was. According to her the picture rid her off many years of suppression in a conservative environment. Mallika Sherawat, too, talks about her Haryana roots in the interview accompanying this picture. Nudity when combined with traditional items of dressing up like a bindi or bangles turns into something more than just great vital stats. It’s about making a point, pushing the boundaries. It’s not only about a gym-toned body anymore.

WHERE THE LINES BLUR

meat on her ever frail body, it was her slutty nun outfit that created mass controversy. Her version of the nun's habit for one of her performances on stage peeved many people; not for what she showed but what she covered the rest of it with.

Though religion is a far more tricky and delicate territory than tradition, but the underlying idea of shock — by marrying the conservative with the outrageous — remains the same.

It might be a first for Mallika Sherawat, but actress Vidya Balan has already mastered the art of 'aesthetic nudity'. According to her, sensuality that has an Indian touch to it is much more tasteful and powerful.

Besides the fact that she doesn’t have and is unlikely to ever have a bikini body, her brand of sensuality has done quite well with the men. There's something quite different about a woman going topless wearing a sari, than a girl in a teeny weeny bikini.

The Kamasutra nude chic not only makes for shocking pictures but also aesthetic ones. It’s the new code of sensuality.

Reproduced From Mail Today. Copyright 2011. MTNPL. All rights reserved

'Men are like bank accounts. Without a lot of of money they don't generate a lot of interest'.

Frank Talk

Sex and Sun Signs

Sex is really important to keep your relationship sailing smooth forever. It is not just about physical pleasure but by giving in, you are expressing 'trust' that you have in your mate. It reflects affection, care, love and a feeling that you are wanted. If your sex life has gone for a toss, you have to work on it before your relationship is hit hard. In fact, sex has the power to put an end to conflicts in your relationship. So, discover your partners' passion points through their sun sign and keep the magic in your relationship alive.

Aries:
When your lover is Aries, sex is best if it's spontaneous and unrestricted. Their heads are erogenous zones-they love it when you mess up their hair and grab their face when they are making love. They are especially aroused by their partner's sexual organs.

Taurus:
When your lover is Taurus, the sexual nature involves all of the senses. Touch and smell are supremely important to these lovers. These lovers don't have a reputation for spontaneity or variety, but they are good at what they do nonetheless.

Gemini:
When your lover is Gemini, use words in bed with them. Talk turns them on, and they love to kiss! Oral pleasures are extra special for these lovers. They love role-playing, as long as it is varied.

Cancer:
When your lover is Cancer, you'll get one of the most sensitive and sweet lovers. They are turned on by slave scenarios, and they may like it when you're a little mean and aggressive in bed, as long as they know you love them.

Leo:
When your lover is Leo, the fantasies often revolve around devotion and attention. These people are most turned on when their partner thinks they are gods or goddesses. They can sometimes come on too strong, and get impatient when their needs are not met soon enough.

Virgo:
When your lover is Virgo, there is generally a healthy attitude towards sex. Simple and sweet is the way they like their bed partners. They can be a little insecure about their own bodies, and they make up for it by paying close attention to their methods of turning you on.

Libra:
When your lover is Libra, extra care is taken to please the partner. They love working on getting things right, and are especially turned on by role-playing sex games. They are givers in bed, but they fully expect you to give equally in return.

Scorpio:
When your lover is Scorpio, the sexual nature can be quite complex. These lovers are willing to do almost anything, and they enjoy full-body pleasures. The most passionate of all signs, Scorpios are known to have sex always on their mind.

Sagittarius:
When your lover is Sagittarius, sex is treated rather like a sport. Laughing and rough-housing are huge turn-ons. The best way to approach sex with these people is to just do it.

Capricorn:
When your lover is Capricorn, sex that is straightforward and simple is generally best. They can be quite happy with consistency, as variety is less important to them than is security in sexual expression. Do not expect any creative or zany positions, but expect it to be good.

Aquarius:
When your lover is Aquarius, there is a 'take it or leave it' style that can be sexy or maddening, depending on the audience. Sex from a distance, like cyber or phone sex, or affairs that don't break up marriages, can be especially attractive to these folks.

Pisces:
When your lover is Pisces, a subtle approach to flirting and sex is taken on. In general, they prefer non-verbal expressions of love and are attracted to imbalance. Self-sacrifice, compassion, and even religion can be mixed into their sexual expression.

Woman Power

Picture this. According to research, without contraception, an average woman can bear around 12 to 15 children in her lifetime. 

Another reason why you should not miss your daily cup of tea -- Research has shown that 3 cups of 'chai' every day can reduce the risk of breast Cancer in young women.

'A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.' ..... Mignon McLaughlin.

Powerful woman 

Congress Party President Sonia Gandhi, 64 figures as the 7th most-powerful woman of the world in the Forbes list. Topping the list of world's 100 most powerful women are German Chancellor Angela Merkel and US Secretary of State Hillary Clinton. Brazil's first woman president Delma Rousseff is 3rd with Indian- American Indian Nooyi, head of the soft drink giant Pepsico, 4th followed by Sheryl Sandberg, Chief Operating Officer of Facebook and Milinda Gates Co-chairman and co-founder of Bill and Milinda Gates Foundation. US first lady Michelle Obama, who last year held the top spot, dropped  to number 8. Two India corporate executives Chandra Kochhar of ICICI (43rd) and Kiran Mazumdaar-Shah of biocon (99th) figure in the list.

Top models and their earnings

Gisele at no.1 

Gisele Bunchen is world's top earning model for the seventh time in a row. 

Age: 30 years  Height: 5'11'' 

Brazilian super model married footballer Tom Brady and has a 16-month-old son Benjamin. This year saw the income increase by a whopping USD 20 million, taking her earnings over the past year to USD 45 million. 

Heidi Klum at No.2 

German model Heidi Klum, who earned USD 20 million through her recent partnership with a website and launching her own clothing line with a sportswear brand. 

Kate Moss No.3 

British model Kate Moss, who made USD 13.5 million dollars from deals including her own bag collection and another brand campaign. 

The Curious Case of Freida Pinto

“In such an insanely competitive market, to carve a niche with such modest talent, is indeed fantastic and I mean it as a compliment.”

..........By Monojit Lahiri

First things first. Seldom, if ever, has any actress invited such a range of strong reactions — from total indifference to wild raves — or projected such an intriguing image in the public domain as Freida Pinto. The 27-year-old Slumdog Millionaire star who shot to international fame in 2008 after the film garnered monster global acclaim and a clutch of prestigious awards, including the to-die-for sweep of the coveted Oscars, ironically remains largely unsung and unknown in the land of her birth.

Bollywood junkies in her hometown Mumbai are amused and bewildered by the raves the Mumbai-born and raised, Mangalorean Catholic continues to receive from respected critics and esteemed directors abroad. Theater director and filmmaker Feroz Abbas Khan [Gandhi, My Father] is one of them. “For me, Freida Pinto is a spectacular accident, a dazzlingly lucky by-product of a hugely successful film that grabbed popular imagination I have to admit that, like most, I remain mystified by all the attention she is receiving from the West. Strictly, as a director, I find absolutely nothing in her that is either extraordinary or interesting in terms of personality, talent or looks. She appears like someone available by the truckloads anywhere in suburban Mumbai! In Slumdog too, what great shakes did she do? I am sorry, but I just don’t get it …”

Fair enough, but obviously Hollywood did and does. Internationally revered directors like Woody Allen, Julian Schnabel and Jean-Jacques Annaud sought her out for their projects, such as You Will Meet A Tall Dark Stranger; Miral and Black Gold. She featured prominently in the list of Most Beautiful People, Top 99 Most Desirable Women, Most Stylish Women, Most Beautiful Faces in the hottest glam mags there. On the acting front too, she scooped up a slew of prestigious awards and nominations — BAFTA, Screen Actors Guild, Palm Springs International Film Festival, MTV Award for Best Kiss! — to support her glam, exotic image.

Khan acknowledges it all but suggests that most of it probably has to do with the “flavor-of-the-day” factor. He believes that in the West [read: Hollywood] the color white is not as hotanymore [Penelope Cruz, Salma Hayek, Antonio Bandera] and so someone like Pinto is cool and just what the doc ordered. Dusky, slim, flashing eyes, wide mouth, she symbolizes eastern exotica, full-on!

“Also, the Slumdog effect should never be underestimated. Its incredible success, the magic that its poverty-porn pitch created among mesmerized viewers in the west, its stark, raw realism … and in the middle of it all, her character Latika, petite, fragile, with her quiet charm, all lost in love in a violent, ugly, cruel world… Danny Boyle’s sharp eyes for what sells in the west catapulted the film into a different stratosphere — taking Freida Pinto along! The fact that nothing of this kind remotely happened in India is indicative of the way we perceived and consumed the Slumdog Millionaire phenomenon here, as opposed to the west.”

However, Khan is quick to give credit to the young star for the way she’s handled her career. “Post the Slumdog tsunami, she’s kept her head, read the writing on the wall, got herself great agents — along with getting lucky with some A-list filmmakers and marketed herself brilliantly. Today, I think she’s aced both Ash Rai Bachchan and Mallika Sherawat in the Hollywood race by miles! Full marks to her. In such an insanely competitive market, to carve a niche with such modest talent, is indeed fantastic and I mean it as a compliment.”

Cut to India and Bollywood. Three years on, after Slumdog Millionaire, its amazing that nothing of any sigifnicance has come from Bollywood, her home turf, even after all the accolades and awards from the biggest and best from their baap, Hollywood! She has been quoted as saying: “Back home they don’t really know who I am and probably don’t take me seriously as an actress. Yes, I did get a few scripts to read but have never been approached directly by any major Bollywood Film-maker to do a film. Frankly, I don’t think I fit the bill … the image of the typical heroine. Hollywood has definitely accepted me more willingly than India . I am not famous there. I don’t get mobbed or chased around!”

Critic Saibal Chatterjee, however, is delighted with her predicament and thinks that God has been extra kind to keep Freida Pinto away from Bollywood. “She’s been incredibly fortunate in not having to do anything with the masala factory — by accident or design — because that would have ruined her completely! They’d tart her up, get her to sing, dance, maybe do an item number — the new disease — sensationalize her Dev Patel connection and offer her nothing more than an ornamental role, totally without substance. Thank god for the color of her skin which also must have played a part. The Katrinas and Kareenas are fair-skinned and Pinto is spot-on when she feels she could be a misfit in that environment. Agreed, not every role she’s done in the west is meaningful and solid, but look at the banners, projects and buzz that these films created and of course the name and reputation of top line directors! Can you compare Karan Johar or Adi Chopra with Woody Allen?”

Chatterjee believes that Bollywood is losing by not inviting and leveraging this international star’s talent, like Western directors have. “Problem is that these Bollywood guys are so one-dimensional, tunnel-viewed and complacent … thrilled with their Bodyguards, Singhams, Band Baja Baraat and Zindagi Na Milega Dobara! They have no interest or knowledge of what cinema, even commercially, can do. No wonder, beyond the Diaspora, no one gives a damn about the B-town products. When was the last time we ever won awards and acclaim — with a global not Asian audience — at a big-ticket international meet? Ms. Pinto should ignore Bollywood totally if she wants to grow as an actress — both in stature and star-power She should never feel bad that it didn’t work for her, in masala-land. Never ever!”

Khan counters: “She is unlikely to ever attract Bollywood directors, because she neither has the glamor and sex appeal of a Kat, Karena or Priyanka or the power-house talent of plain-Janes’ like Konkona Sen Sharma, Shahana Goswami or Vidya Balan. She’s right — where will they fit her in? It’s a different scene in the West, because their vision and perception of good looks, sex appeal and stardom in cinema is different.”

At the end of the day, can’t win ‘em all. Did Naseer Shah, Irfaan Khan, Om Puri, Ash Rai Bachchan, Mallika Sherawat, or earlier, Kabir Bedi, Victor Banerjee or anyone who ever went to Hollywood ever make it big? No. Freida Pinto is India ’s biggest export to hit Hollywood . Anirban Das, managing director of Kwan, the management company handling Pinto’s endorsement in India , is categorical that “we’re not pitching her as an Indian girl in international films. Freida Pinto is a global face.”

Presently, riding the global success of her super-smash hit Rise of the Planet of the Apes, which grossed over $250 million and counting in the US alone, and with Immortals and Black Gold to be released soon, the girl from Malad is well past slumdog millionaire.

She is reportedly open to an interesting Bollywood script, but is skeptical about their reaction and attitude to her global stardom. As for not making it big in the local industry, she needn’t lose too much sleep. She can rest assured that somewhere, sometime, most female stars of any worth in B-town — if they are brutally honest — will wonder what Latika Pinto has that has made her such a global hottie, that she doesn’t. Then, recovering after being suitably buoyed up by chamchas, flunkies, fans and other cutlery, she will put on a mask of superiority, arrogance and condescension to sneer: Freida who?

But that is set to change because Pinto has just inked a two-year endorsement deal with a fashion apparel brand for $7 million, the highest any Indian female celebrity has been paid. Gushes Kwan’s Das, who handled the endorsements. “Brand Freida stands for very rare, unique and irreplaceable values and imagery, making her the ideal choice for any brand with global appeal and Indian focus.”

Cry your heart out Bolly babes!

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Seven Global Sex Facts

Sex tax, Germany

We’ve all heard the snappy, hard-hitting phrase “sex sells”. It would seem that the officials in the German city of Bonn have taken this phrase to a whole new level. They have installed a meter in the city to tax their 200 prostitutes. The fee is six Euros and is expected to earn 200,000 Euros per year. You even get a receipt.

The land of the fertile, Russia

Although in a recent survey the Russians were reported as being the least happy with their sex lives (along with the Fins), one woman in Russia holds the world record for having birthed the most children. This fertile lady gave birth 69 times, having 16 pairs of twins, seven sets of triplets, and four sets of quadruplets. Where did she find the time?

Sex toys banned, America

In a global survey Jennifer Lopez won the crown of being the world’s sexiest woman. Halle Berry and Britney Spears were joint third. Despite producing three of the most beautiful women in the world, parts of America seems decidedly prudish. For example, the state of Alabama has banned the sale of any items that are intended to give sexual stimulation. 

Body sushi, Japan

If your two favourite things are eating and sex, then body sushi is for you. This Japanese tradition uses the naked body as a serving plate. The models are typically female. They are trained to lie still for hours, whilst food is eaten from their bodies. Sometimes the women will be painted or decorated too. The idea is based around the belief that sushi should delight.

Who has the most sex, global 

According to a recent survey, Americans appear to have the most sex at 132 times a year. The Russian’s come a close second, with the average Russian having sex 122 times a year. In third place is the French at 121 and in fourth position is the Greeks at 115.  However, the three countries with the lowest sexual frequency were Japan , Malaysia and China . 

Sexual energy, China

Taoism is an ancient tradition that is steeped in Chinese customs and beliefs. Taoist’s believe sexual energy is life-enhancing and so they try to retain it. For males, one way to retain sexual energy is to prevent ejaculation. Some Taoist’s also encourage men to have many sexual partners; in order to access the beneficial energy released by women during sex.

Biggest orgy, Japan

On the 15th of March an annual fertility festival is held in Japan , where the penis is celebrated and revered. With the Japanese being such public fans of the penis, it is no shock that it is they who hold the world record for having the biggest orgy ever. 250 Japanese men and 250 Japanese women had sex in a warehouse at the same time. They’ve even released a DVD. 

Star Homes

Take a peak at the multi million dollar homes of the celebrities and Hollywood A list. 

Owner: Beckhams

Area : Beverly Hills

Star neighbours: Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes

Top features: Posh and Becks splashed out on their 6-bedrooms, nine bathrooms, Italian style villa back into 2007, after being won over by its ocean views, front lawn pool and huge iron gates to keep the paparazi at bay. 

Valued: Rs 960 million.

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People in Places  ..........by Alka Dev

   Dinesh Shetty  ............ from Karkala to Abu Dhabi

Indians have migrated far and wide. They have settled in various countries across the globe and earn their living, and call those cities their second home. Recently leenacom.com editor, A K Naik was on a visit to Abu Dhabi, UAE and met a few Indians and others working abroad in different fields. Here we profile some of them.

Dinesh Shetty, 29, educated in his native place, is married and hails from Karkala. He speaks Kannada, Hindi, English, Tulu and has a working knowledge of Malayalam and Arabic. His wife is teacher and they have a son, Chirag, 6 months old. His parents live in the ancestral home in his native place.

He arrived in Gulf in 2002 and joined Sharjah Cement Factory as a Lab Technician. After working there for almost more than six years, quit and left for home to start something on his own. 

He ventured into cyber cafe at Byloor and conducted business for almost more than a year. Since it did not fetch him the expected returns, he gave it on rent to his friend. And again he turned towards Gulf and on 16 June 2009, he joined Arab Udupi Group as a light vehicle driver cum storekeeper at Mussaffah ICAD, handling dry and frozen products.

From there he was transferred to HO in Abu Dhabi as a replacement for another employee who had gone on a holiday. He handles stores purchase. He is happy and enjoys his job. He gets along well with all the staff here.

He has high regards for the MD, SB Shetty and wishes to make a career with the organisation.

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Exotic Feast

 - by Ashoo Raj

You can have something for everyone. For quick collecting of no-cook ingredients to speedy cooking of delicacies. A grand feast for readers.  

Lime grainte with strawberry

(Serves One, Preparing time 10 min, chilling time overnight)

Ingredients: 250 castor sugar, 250 ml water, 250 ml freshly squeezed lime juice, 1 bunch fresh mint leaves, shredded, 250 fresh strawberries, quartered.

Method: 1. Dissolve sugar in water. Add lime juice and place in a shallow dish. Freeze overnight. 2. When ready to serve scrap the grainte with the fork and spoon the shards into a glass. Sprinkle mint and strawberries over and serve immediately.

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Doing your best for your dyslexic child can be challenging experience. Remediana Dias asks parents to celebrate what their children are, and what they can do.

Many parents are faced with sorting out the right support for their dyslexic child and the need to persuade or threaten schools and education authorities to act. So it is easy to forget that education should be all about helping to prepare your child for adulthood.

One of the traps that parents and dyslexics can fall into is trying to fit in, at school and at work. This maybe understandable, but beyond a certain point, it is counter productive. For example, it is not unusual for some dyslexic young people to refuse to go to school. Sometimes, firm discipline and ‘you are going to work through these difficulties’ is the right approach. Likewise so is giving up on a school that is constantly failing that child. Why try to climb a ladder that is leaning against the wrong wall?

I recently attended a party at a summer school for teenagers with dyslexia where all were required to wear a mask.  I couldn’t help feeling that so many of these young people attending the party were so used to wearing ‘masks’ in their daily lives to fit into a non dyslexic world that they did not know how to remove them.

Every dyslexic person must face the challenge of focusing on what can be done rather than on what can’t. The story of the Apollo 13 space mission, where the crew nearly died as one system after another failed on their spacecraft illustrates this. What made a difference was the leadership of the flight director Gene Krantz who asked the question: “What have we got on the spacecraft that’s good?” This was the moment that probably saved the crew’s lives by changing the focus from what was not working to “what can we do to save the mission?”

While the battle for recognition of dyslexia and the right support for a child is being waged, there is a real danger of losing sight of “what your child has and is good at”. I believe it is more important to build a dyslexic child’s emotional intelligence than it is to worry about teaching your child to read, write and spell. Children will often develop effective coping strategies and the role of the parent is to fight for the space to allow their child to explore and find their own way of learning. 

Two of the most useful skills any dyslexic can learn are those of knowing oneself and dealing with others. If you know what makes yourself tick then you have self-awareness. This increases your ability to understand others. Emotional growth and the development of maturity require us to develop independence and a sense of responsibility, but happiness and effectiveness in making a living require inter-dependence, that is an ability to connect and work with others.

My purpose in writing this article is to encourage you to ask the right questions so you and your child can find your own right answers. As the parent you need to lead children to design their own mask. Not a mask that hides what your child is, but one that celebrates what your child is and what they can do. And more importantly, it is one they want to wear!

(Remediana Dias is a Dyslexia Practitioner based in Dubai and can be reached at rodrigremy@yahoo.com She is the Chairperson of Vision Education Society). 

Elizabeth Taylor's diamond collection to be auctioned off?

According to an American magazine, Elizabeth Taylor’s massive collection of diamonds and vintage jewels will be auctioned by Christie’s. Although the auction house has not confirmed the report, it was always speculated during the actress’s life that they collection would be sold off to raise money for her beloved charities, as Elizabeth herself once said, the rocks would be ‘scattered around the four corners of the world.’

Friends of Elizabeth , who had seen the stash of treasures at her house, report that the movie star had ‘collection and collections, and rooms. She knew where every single piece was. [It was] amazing’. Indeed, the archive of rubies, rare pearls and diamonds is said to rival that of various royal households and was even put on display to the public in 2002, to raise money for an Aids charity.

The most notorious of all the jewels is the 33 carat Krupp diamond, bought for her by Richard Burton. She said at the time 'the Krupp was my prize for beating Richard at ping-pong', and it was his first present gift to her although he later went on to buy her even more extravagant sparklers, including “the Taj Mahal” and one so big it became known as the “Taylor Burton diamond”. Wow.

- Naomi Attwood

Elizabeth Taylor had a secret love child

A month after her death, another twist has been added to her legend, the existence of her love child. The star was forced to give up the child, according to psychic and Taylor confidant John Cohan. 

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How to make your man more romantic

By By Emma Jayne Jones 

If love was like it is in the movies then our lives would all be a whirlwind of intimate late night dinners, flowers delivered to work and surprise romantic weekends away. Unfortunately, in the real world you're lucky if your man remembers to buy a card for your anniversary.

We've all moaned about how our men aren't romantic enough but, as modern day women, if you want it you've got to go out and get it. But how do you do it?

Firstly, focus on the positive. Instead of concentrating on all the things that he doesn't do, look at what he does. Making you a cup of tea in the morning, buying you your favourite chocolate bar or putting your washing away may seem like mundane actions but they all show that he cares and wants to do nice things for you.

Romance doesn't have to be all flowers and expensive dinners, but about showing each other how much you care and spending quality time together.

It is easy to think that the man has to do all the work but when was the last time you made a romantic gesture? Lead by example and take the responsibility for a putting a bit of romance back into your relationship. Cook him a nice meal, run yourselves a candlelit bath or give him a backrub after a long day at work.

Victoria Lukats, psychiatrist and relationship expert for Parship.com says, "Romance is important as it keeps couples connected and shows your partner that you are thinking about them. Do romantic things for him but be careful not to suffocate him. Start off small."

You may be thinking it's all very well you doing all the work - but what about him? If you want your man to be more romantic you need to tell him. As much as we would like our men to know exactly what we want and deliver it without us having to ask, they are not mind readers.

"You need to find a way to communicate," says Victoria . "If you say ‘do this', it's not very romantic so you need to lead them by the hand. Don't be prescriptive but give them the chance to do it by themselves."

Try to find a trigger for the conversation such as a scene on TV or a story about your friends and use this to talk about your own relationship. Put the emphasis on you both as a couple and try to steer clear of giving him a lecture. Say, "Wouldn't it be nice if we did this," or, "I'd love to do... with you."

And remember, men's idea of romance is often very different to yours so don't be negative and criticise him when his gestures fail to live up to your expectations. Instead, be happy that he has made the effort and use it as a starting point for a romantic future.

Here are four steps to take towards turning your man into the one in the movies...

Tease him
Hints don't work very well with men but it is always worth a try. Leave this article up on your computer, talk about a friend's romantic partner or comment on a romantic scene on TV. All these things might give him some ideas but you are best off just telling him how you feel.

Tell him
Men aren't mind readers - much as we'd like them to be - so you need to tell them what you want. Don't make it confrontational but open up the conversation by asking what you could do to make him feel more wanted/loved/appreciated.

Teach him
The best way to get someone to change their behaviour is by setting an example of what you would like done. Do something romantic for him - that he would like not just what you want - and he will be more inspired to reciprocate.

Treat him
Everyone likes to be complimented so make sure your man knows how pleased you are when he makes romantic gesture. Don't overdo it but be genuine about your feelings and what it means to you.

According to studies, men change their minds two to three times more often than women.

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World's first sex school opens in Austria

By Indo Asian News Service | IANS – Thu, Dec 1, 2011

London , Dec 1 (IANS) While many people may think it's an activity which should be best learned behind closed doors, an enterprising Swedish schoolmistress thinks otherwise.

Ylva-Maria Thompson has opened the world's first international sex school for teaching the art of being better lovers, the Daily Mail reported.

The Austrian International Sex School in Vienna offers 'hands on' lessons in seduction for 1,400 pounds a term. The 'headmistress' says anyone over the age of 16 can enrol at 'the world's first college of applied sexuality'.

Students of the course are expected to stay in a co-ed dormitory block where they're expected to practice their 'homework'. By the end of their course, they are awarded a qualification.

The school head said: 'Our core education is not theoretical, but very practical. The emphasis is on how to be a better lover.

'Sexual positions, caressing techniques, anatomical features. And we teach people hands on.'

School's spokesperson Melodi Kirsch exuded confidence that the school would be a great success.

The school, however, has already turned controversial in Austria with it raunchy advertisments showing a couple making love having already invited ban by Austrian TV.

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Sex drive slow, only 3 pc people say they have sex daily: Poll

According to a recent poll conducted by adult products company Adam and Eve, only three percent of the respondents said they had sex daily.…

According to a recent poll conducted by adult products company Adam and Eve, only three percent of the respondents said they had sex daily.

Nearly 20 percent admitted that they weren't sexually active.

Out of the 1,000 men and women surveyed, 5 percent admitted to never having had sex in their lives while, the majority of respondents (26 percent) said they have sex once or twice a week.

16 percent of the remaining participants said they had sex three to four times a week whereas, 15 percent admitted to having sex once or twice a month, reports the New York Daily News.

7 percent said they had sex every few months.

A mere 1 percent enjoyed sex more than once a day, reveals the poll. (ANI)

Love Making Tips For Husbands

Here is a story from www.parentwonder.com about love making tips for husbands, it is written for new fathers. It is no secret that men can get turned on much quicker than women. Men are also able to climax in less time than most women. This can make for some issues when it comes to love making. Husbands sometimes don’t understand why their wife doesn’t want to be intimate. It is likely because they aren’t getting the same thing out of the event. Men need to understand that love making is more mental for a woman while it is mainly a physical event for a man. Outside the bedroom You can help your wife enjoy love making more by being more attentive outside of the bedroom. Give her a breath taking kiss as you leave in the morning and she will think about you all day. Leave her notes that you love her and call her to say hello during your lunch hour, not to ask her to iron your shirt! Show of appreciation A woman likes to know she is appreciated. Take the time to thank her for all she does for you and for your family. It will mean the world to her. Women often get ran down after a day of working, caring for children, and taking care of the household. Make sure she gets some quality time to herself. This can be cleaning up after a meal you cooked for her, giving the children a bath, or giving her a gift certificate for a massage. Oh body! Many women are self conscious about their bodies, especially if they have gained weight and after they have children. Let her know you think she is beautiful. Don’t save your compliments until you want to make love. Once the moment does present itself, ask her what you can do to please her. Women take longer to climax, so foreplay is very important. A woman who feels appreciated, feels sexy, and has some help with children and household chores will be more willing to make love with her husband. If you work hard to take care of her needs, she will do everything she can to make sure yours are met as well. Source: http://www.diyfather.com

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Does size matter at all?

More Than Just an Erectile Problem

Men, you may not realize it, but you've got a canary in your pants. Doctors now recognize that the penis functions as an exquisitely simple gauge for detecting impending heart problems. That's one reason flagging erections, which affect more than a third of men over the age of 40, should not be ignored. Another: Drugs like Viagra, which celebrated its 10th birthday this year, are just one set-among several-of time-tested treatments.

A decade into the medical revolution that turned erectile dysfuction into a household term, a shift in thinking is afoot. There's ample evidence that Viagra, Levitra, and Cialis can revitalize a man's sex life; in trails, Viagra enabled 83 percent of men struggling with ED to have intercourse at least once compared with 45 percent of those taking a placebo. Still, other drugs may be necessary to deal with vascular disease or diabetes, which often accompany ED. And long-impotent men may want to consider options like penile implants because as vascular  disease progresses, the usefulness of Viagra and its kin often wanes.

ED heralds heart trouble because arteries in the penis have about a quarter the diameter of coronary arteries. When plaque builds up, the slender vessels reach the strangling point first-but cardiac problems are often just around the corner. "In many cases, erectile dysfunction is quite literally vascular disease under the belt", says Randy Fagin, a urologist and director of the prostate center of Austin. Symptoms often occur three to four years before cardiac problems, such as chest pain or heart attack, begin to crop up, says Robert Kloner, a cardiologist at the University of Southern California. New guidelines in 2006 advised physicians to consider a man with erectile dysfunction and no cardiac symptoms a cardiac patient until proved otherwise.

In addition to any treatment they may need for vascular disease, men have options for fixing ED. Eating better and exercising regularly can not only stave off plaque buildup in arteries but reverse it, research has shown. A 2004 study of obese men with erectile dysfunction found, for example, that erectile function improved in a third of men who adopted healthful behaviors and lost about 30 pounds.

Among medical options, doctors say, one of the best is to inject a medication such as alprostadil into the base or side of the penis. A quick, relatively painless shot, which can produce an erection within 10 minutes, cost about twice as much as a dose of an oral ED drug.

(Read the remaining part of this article, next week)

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 10 Rules for becoming a better kisser

• Please do not lick your lips as you go in for the kiss. This is equivalent to a singer clear his/her throat before a performance.

• Your mouth is not a jack a-in-the-box. Do you stick your tongue out every time you open your mouth to kiss? Abstain from any such impulse if you want to get anywhere beyond the first kiss.

• When in doubt, follow this order of operations during any given kissing session: 1) Closed mouth 2) Opened mouth, 3) Opened mouth, just the hint of tongue. 4) Use of tongue whether that four-step process takes a half hour or 30 seconds to complete, the build- up is infinitely preferable to sticking out your tongue.

• Do not open your mouth so wide that your partner reels back in fear, thinking, “Is he/she about to kiss me or chew my head up?”

• Do not make a beeline for the genitals the moment you lock your lips with your partner’s, especially during a first kiss or during kisses early on in the dating process. And remember, if you have not gone beyond hand-holding until this point, romance should take priority over mad lust, where you both savour the moment and focus only on the kissing.

• This one is very important: Do not ever try to sneak up on your partner (especially if you both have never kissed before) to plant a surprise kiss on them so they cannot be quick enough to kiss you back – it is rude. And desperate.

• Likewise, grabbing someone’s face is romantic so long as you are not holding   their head to keep them from pulling away. Putting someone in headlock so they cannot escape your kiss is not only rude, it is criminal.

• If your partner pulls away, the ladylike or gentlemanly kisser refrains from getting mad or pouty. Even if you are dying of humiliation or crying on the inside, maintain a cool and calm exterior. You can sulk later, and in private.

• When you come up for air and decide to head for their earlobe, proceed with caution and restraint. Many despise ear-play altogether. So go slowly, breathe softly, blow gently, and use your tongue sparingly. And if your partner pulls away, do not keep revisiting the area in an effort to convert them.

• If you don’t want your partner to die of suffocation, brush your teeth and your tongue often, carry mints with you at all times and keep a small tube of toothpaste next to your bed for morning touch-ups so you or your partner don’t have to leave the warm comforts of bed prematurely.

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To check your Mobile phone's serial number, 

key in the following Digits on your phone: *#06#

A 15 digit code will appear on the screen. This number is unique to your handset. 

Write it down and keep it somewhere safe.

Should your phone get stolen, you can phone your service provider and give them 

this code. 
They will then be able to block your handset so even if the thief changes the Sim 

card your phone will be totally useless. You probably won't get your phone back, but 

at least you know whoever stole it can't use/sell it either. If everybody did this, 

there would be no point in stealing mobile phones.

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Pregnancy workout reduces size of baby

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New Treatment at Korean Spas - Vaginal Steam Baths

I feel like everything I'm writing about has been a bit "below the belt" lately.  But I have to report on this one. The LA Times writes that many Korean spas are offering a traditional vaginal steam bath as part of their spa menu.

Better known for Korean body scrubs, Korean spas are offering a centuries old treatment where you sit on an open-seated stool above a boiling pot of a mugwort tea blended with wormwood and other herbs.

"Vaginal steam baths, called chai-yok, are said to reduce stress, fight infections, clear hemorrhoids, regulate menstrual cycles and aid infertility, among many other health benefits," read The LA Times. "In Korea, many women steam regularly after their monthly periods."

Doctors says it's not implausible that vaginal delivery of specific Chinese herbs might have some benefit. With its extensive blood flow and mucous membranes, the vagina is very absorbent. At Daengki Spa in LA's Koreatown, a 45-minute V-Herbal Therapy treatment can be had for $20. The upscale Juvenex Spa in New York City offers a 30-minute Gyno Spa Cure for $75.

Find out the real facts of life

Sex; it’s one of the most thought about subjects, but how much do we really know? Our knowledge of sex is often confused by rumours, misconceptions and outright lies. So, dust off your magnifying glass, pull out your probes and apply your long, investigative, latex gloves – it’s myth busting time:

A woman can’t get pregnant when it’s her first time

The notion that a woman cannot get pregnant the first time she has sex is still a commonly held belief. In Turkey 25 per cent of young people thought this was true. However, the truth of the matter is that without reliable contraception, pregnancy is possible, whether it is the woman’s first time or her fiftieth time.

I can’t darling, I’ve got a headache

Have you ever used the old headache excuse, or been denied some loving action because of one? Well, we have a cure for her sore head because sex has medicinal properties. When women have sex, endormorphins are released into her body, which in turn relieves pain. Therefore getting under the covers should help ease a woman’s headache.  

Men always want it

Although many men in their late teens and early twenties want a lot of it, men do not always want to have sex. Lots of things affect people’s sex drives; stress being one of the biggest culprits. If you don’t feel like it, there’s nothing wrong with you. On average Briton’s have sex six to seven times per month, whilst American’s on average have sex twice a week.  

If you masturbate you run out of semen

This is not true. The amount of semen a man ejaculates varies, being between half a teaspoon and a whole teaspoon of fluid. This equates to 40-500 million sperm.  Men who ejaculate a lot in one day may notice that the volume of semen decreases, but there is no risk of you running out of semen, you will simply produce more.

Older people don’t do it

Talking about old people getting frisky can embarrass some people; but let’s face it everyone likes sex, even the granddads and grandmas. Many people think that after the menopause women lose interest in sex, but this is not always true. Many older people enjoy an active sex life beyond the menopause and it has lots of health benefits too.

It’s good to lose your virginity when you are young

Although people are having sex younger, many regret it. The average age to lose your virginity is 16 in the UK . It was 21 in the 1950s. Sixty-three percent of sexually active adolescents wished they had waited longer and eighty-nine percent of those surveyed would advise their own brother, sister or friend not to have sex until at least after finishing secondary school.

Thin condoms break

If a condom is your preferred method of contraception, which type do you choose? There are a lot of condoms on the market: ribbed ones, sleek fitting ones, the thin, the thick and the pina colada flavored. Whichever you use, you don’t have to worry about the thickness because Durex reassures us that the thickness of the condom doesn’t necessarily correspond to safety.

We’re all porn stars

Watching two of Hollywood ’s finest stars perform a hot love scene is great for getting you in the mood, but it should not be used as a sex guide. Real people do not come every time and last for three hours. Studies show that 75 per cent of men orgasm two to three minutes after penetration and an estimated 30 per cent of women can only achieve orgasm through masturbation.  

Men cheat more than women

When you hear that a couple have split up because of an affair it is easy to assume it was the man’s fault, but recent studies suggest that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret. According to Dr David Holmes between eight and 15 per cent of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent.

Women don’t ejaculate

Not all women ejaculate, but some do. If you have seen women ejaculate during pornography this is not an accurate depiction. In reality, women ejaculate a small amount of fluid, which is a mixture of urine and a liquid from the G-spot (the female equivalent to a prostate). However, most women do not experience ejaculation, so if you don’t, there’s no need to worry.

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Sexzone............everything you wanted to know                                  ...... Revathi Dani

Q. I am 25-years old. I went to another town and stayed with my friend's aunt who is around 35 and resides alone. she asked me to sleep in her bedroom. Later that night she slept next to me and was all over me. she seduced me and we had sex a couple of times. And both enjoyed for at least 3-4 nights before i returned back. I am not able to forget. Will it have any bad effects?.......Mihir D, Kalyan. A. It is surprising that conception has not taken place. Always use protection. Forget about her and concentrate on your work. The only benefit is that an experienced woman can teach you something about sex!   Q. I am a young man with a sexy girl friend. We enjoy foreplay for quite a long time and I get a good erection. But the moment I insert my penis, my girl friend gets excited and holds me tight. And in this excitement, I ejaculate immediately leaving both of us unsatisfied. it has happened many a times. Please help?......Atul K, Bhayander. A. Ask your friend to hold her excitement for a while. Insert your penis, wait a while and then start stroking. She too will enjoy the intercourse and reserve all the excitement for the ejaculation. Q. I am 58-years and into a relationship with a woman who is 32. We have a good sex life, and have intercourse 2-3 times a week. But I am unable to control my urge and masturbate 4-5 times a week. Do I need medical help?... Prasad B, Mumbai. A.  What help do you need? You have a good sex life with a younger partner. You are enjoying life. Do only when you are excited. But do get a prostate examination done by an urologist. Q. I am 29-year-old diabetic and my wife is 26. Off late I have been unable to get proper erection. My wife is sexy and fit. She has strong sexual urges and insists on vaginal, anal and oral sex for a long time. While she is happy, can I continue without any problem?............. Ankit N, Napur. A. Avoid anal sex. Otherwise its fine for you to continue. Why don't you see a sexologist, who would be able to advise you on erectile dysfunction better. It is for you to fulfill your wife's sexual urges. Q. I am 21-years-old and my neighbour is a good looking 40-year-old woman, whose husband works abroad. She is very friendly with us and frequently comes home and also invites me over to her place. Initially, it was sitting close to each other and touching, then kissing. Later I had unprotected sex with her. Will it cause any problems. Can I continue to have sex with her? Please help?......... D Bangera, Kalwa. A. It can cause a problem if she has an infection. Since you don't use protection she could get pregnant. It is up to you if you wish to continue, but not without a condom. She is missing her husband and is trying to fulfill her sexual needs through you.  Q. I am 43, my wife is  40. I work till late at night and then go to sleep. In the midst of my deep sleep, either in the late night or early morning, my wife has a habit of  pushing her hand down and squeezing my penis and testicles till it is aroused and ejaculates. Every morning my pyjamas are messed up with dry and wet sperms. And my sleep is be disturbed. Why does she do it? ....... Debashis D, Chinchwad, Pune. A. It is simple. she is aroused and expects you to have sex with her. Work is important, but also give her some time. Think of her physical needs. She is young and feels the need for sexual relationship. Have sex at least 2-3 times a week. You both feel good and satisfied.   Sex Truths Women are safe if a guy pulls out before ejaculation? No. Men do not always realise when the ejacutatory fluid seeps out. This contains sperms and its enough to get one pregnant.   Oral sex is safer than vaginal intercourse? Oral sex is safe with single known partner. Hygiene is of prime importance otherwise you are not immune from getting sexually transmitted disease. Diseases  can enter your body through sores or small cuts in your mouth.   Does size matter? No. It doesn't matter. A women's most sensitive part is near the surface of the vagina and is known as the G spot. When you know the right art of  pleasuring your partner, chances are she won't realise how big or small your penis is.   Women are capable of multi-orgasm and men are not? Yes. Women are capable of multi-orgasm and enjoy it too with the same feeling every time. However in men, once they ejaculate, they tend to loose the erection and take some time for the penis to harden again. But once it hardens he is ready for action. Send your queries to: Sexzone expert , Revati & email at : akn929@yahoo.com

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Alcohol and Sex: Winning or losing combination?

What should you know if you mix two intoxicating substances - alcohol and sex? Is it good or bad combination?

Alcohol is the oldest known aphrodisiac for increasing libido. But large amounts of alcohol can have dreadful consequences on your sexual life. If you consume large amounts of alcohol your `tool` sometimes completely fails to perform. So, what consequences can you expect if you mix alcohol and sex?

Alcohol increases sexual arousal

As said before, moderate amounts of alcohol increase sexual arousal and make you more relaxed, confident and attractive, which makes it is easier for you to meet and conquer the girl or guy of your dreams. Of course, that does not mean that we are advertising the consumption of alcohol in difficult and uncomfortable situations. But it is true, that a glass or two might help you, especially if you are nervous by nature and have a bad self-image.

Alcohol makes you more relaxed between the sheets

A glass of alcohol will help you to become more relaxed, adventurous and less shy in bed. Many boundaries will fall and you might do things you never dreamed of doing before and sexual intercourse can truly become an exciting experience.

Don`t forget to drink moderately

So, now it is time to say a few things about the unwanted effects of alcohol on sexual intercourse. Your sexual performance will be pretty lame is you drink too much alcohol. Men can experience serious erection problems and difficulties with reaching an orgasm, which can cost you a whole night of pleasure. It is therefore necessary to know your boundaries which are different with each individual.

Alcohol can blur your judgment

Another unwanted effect of alcohol is that it blurs your judgment. Instead of practicing safe sexual intercourse, alcohol makes you forget all about it, which can have fatal consequences, for example unwanted pregnancy or infection with sexually transmitted diseases.

Don`t let the use of alcohol become an abuse

It is fine if you drink a glass or two from time to time, but moderate drinking can quickly become excessive drinking with fatal consequences on your sexual life. Alcohol can cause permanent erection problems and bad performance in bed. It is also often a reason for aggression and violence of men over women. In such case, you should act before alcohol becomes your enemy and seek professional help!

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Female-friendly positions

1. The missionary

The first position is the missionary. It may sound boring and unadventurous, but this position allows your pubic mound to rub against her clitoris while you are inside her, which will help trigger an orgasm. Putting a pillow under her bottom will also help get the right angle to hit her G-spot. She can also grind against you and move her hips to greet you. This position is a standard one and you almost can’t go wrong with it, but the most important factor in good sex is communication; if it’s not working, she needs to tell you it’s not working. Experiment!  

2. Doggy style

This position is definitely female friendly when done properly, though there are keys for its success. Many men reach around to stimulate the clitoris with their fingers, which is great, but for some reason -- probably due to being distracted with our own pleasure -- we stop. This is a big mistake, because when you stop halfway, you effectively halt her progress. She probably won’t say anything since it is still very enjoyable; its just not orgasmic.

It can be easier if she stimulates her clitoris, though this can be a bit unsteady since she will only have one arm to hold herself up. Talk to her and figure out what suits her best: you working her clitoris or her. For the less well-endowed among you, doggy style allows for deeper penetration, which can be more satisfying for her. It can also make you orgasm faster, so make sure to slow it down or take a quick break when you need to -- and be sure to keep that hand in place.
3. Her on top No.1

Lie on your back while she straddles you. This position allows her to control the angle, speed and pressure of penetration, while giving her the leverage to stimulate her clitoris by rubbing it on your pubic bone and lower abdomen. It is important for the success of this position that the area of your body that her clitoris is rubbing on is slightly wet, which makes the motion smooth and slippery. She may not know this fact, so you may need to take the initiative and wet it with saliva or lube. 
4. Her on top No. 2

She will need to be comfortable pleasuring herself to be able to get off with this one.  You lie down on the bed or floor while she faces your feet and straddles you. This position gives great G-spot stimulation for her and a great view for you. She can pleasure her own clitoris (which is a benefit because she can do it just how she likes) and create her own rhythm with her hips.

If she is uncomfortable with her body she may not be too keen on this position as her butt will be on full display, but give her a ”lights-out” option if she needs it; she might just find this position tinkles her bells.
5. On a chair

A sturdy armless chair (like a dining chair) provides a great base for a couple of different girl-on-top scenarios. It’s almost impossible for her clitoris not to rub on your stomach and pubic area if she is facing you, and she can manually stimulate her clitoris if she is facing your feet. The angles are excellent -- she can go as deep as she needs to and set the pace as she goes. 

Hitting her happy place

Every woman can have orgasms; it’s just a matter of finding the right combination of stimulation to get her off. Don’t forget that she is responsible for her own pleasure and needs to experiment on her own (and with her man) to find out what suits her best.  Men are not in solely responsible for providing her with sexual satisfaction, so if she can’t orgasm, don’t blame the man. Remember that it takes two to tango and she needs to figure out what gets her going -- with or without the man’s help. Changing positions may very well help her, but if it doesn't, he can try other methods of stimulation, such as having different or longer foreplay or using sex toys. Whatever you do, don’t give up. 

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Top 9 sex-related myths busted

Washington (ANI): Do you know everything about sex? Think again for the more someone claims to know, the less they generally do know.

Alicia Stanton, a board-certified OB/GYN and the author of 'Hormone Harmony,' who specializes in treating men and women suffering hormone imbalances, has listed top nine sex-related myths and what the real scoop is about sex, desire, and making it all work, reports the Fox News.

Myth: Interest in sex decreases with menopause.

Reality: Many women maintain hormonal balance and interest in sex through menopause. And, pregnancy and menstruation are no longer a concern, spontaneity can reign. Also, they are typically more confident and knowledgeable about what they want, so sex has the potential to be better than ever.

Myth: The only hormone important for libido is testosterone.

Reality: Although testosterone is very important for libido and sexual function in men and women, other hormones play a part as well. Estrogen is actually very important for desire in both men and women. Also, a high level of cortisol, our "fight or flight hormone," works against libido. If your body thinks that you're running for your life, literally or figuratively, it is not going to be very interested in sex.

Myth: If you're truly in love, desire for sex and high libido should come easily.

Reality: Relationships and making a real connection with someone takes time and energy. Relationships require as much attention as anything about which you are passionate. Focus on keeping your partner and his or her interests high on your priority list and you will find yourself discovering new ways to connect and keep the passion alive.

Myth: If you're healthy, you should want sex all of the time.

Reality: A wide variety in sexual appetite or level of libido exists. The way you know if you're having the "right" amount of sex is if you and your partner are both happy with your level of activity. There's no need to compare yourself to others.

Myth: If you're connected with your partner, you shouldn't have to ask for what you need.

Reality: Even if you and your partner haven't previously spoken much about your sexual relationship, it might be good to start talking. This is especially true if you're entering a new phase of life, including childbirth, menopause, or andropause, often called male menopause. If you begin to notice changes in your body or sexual desire, be sure to let your partner know what's going on. And, remember, communicating about what feels good enhances the experience for both of you.

Myth: Your most important sex organs are "south of the border."

Reality: Although those places are lots of fun, remember that your brain is the biggest sex organ in your body. You always have the ability to choose how you feel and think about sex and your sexuality. The desirability a man or woman feels about himself or herself is a very potent aphrodisiac. If you feel irresistible, your partner will find you irresistible. Passion is contagious!

Myth: If you don't have a partner, there is no sense in having a libido.

Reality: Having a loving relationship with yourself is essential. Even if you don't currently have a partner, feeling sensual and desirable will add passion to many aspects of your life. It takes practice to learn what arouses you and what a potential partner finds arousing. Learning to pleasure yourself is an important skill that you can continue to enjoy on your own, or that you can teach to a partner one day.

Myth: Women are the only ones who have problems with low libido.

Reality: Although the sexual desire disorder known as low libido is more common in women, it occurs in men as well. Some physical causes include alcohol, various medications, stress, hormone imbalances (such as low testosterone), cocaine use, brain tumors that produce the hormone prolactin, diabetes, and other major diseases such as cancer.

Myth: Hormonal issues are the only cause of low libido in women.

Reality: There are hormone imbalances such as low estrogen, low testosterone, hypothyroidism, and high cortisol from stress, but there are many other potential causes as well. Physical problems such as vulvar or vaginal pain or dryness may cause an increase in frustration and reduced libido. Surgery or other major health conditions like cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure or arthritis can also reduce libido.

Also, relationship issues, psychological issues (including depression), alcohol, tobacco use, and weight issues may also contribute to low libido. (ANI)

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Sunbathing 'boosts men's sex drive!

Move over Viagra, potions and oils sunbathing is more than enough o boost men's sex drive, says a study. In India men should not have any problems revving up their sex drives. Researchers at the Medical University of Graz in Austria found that levels of testosterone, the male sex hormone, in men's blood rise accordingly with doses of Vitamin D. The vital nutrient is produced in the body after exposure to sunlight and is also contained in oily fish and meat.

A spokeman  for the Sunlight Research Forum in Veldhoven, in the Netherlands, said: " Men who ensure their testosterone levels and their libido among other things".

(TOI)

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Sex, wives and libido

BETTINA ARNDT

Sex researcher Bettina Arndt reports on the desire divide that turns loving relationships into battlegrounds.

It's a truth universally acknowledged that a married man, in possession of a good libido, must be in want of some nooky. His wife, however, is either reading Pride and Prejudice or feigning sleep.

There is a wonderful scene in the movie annie hall in which the camera switches between Woody Allen in his psychiatrist's office and his lover, Diane Keaton, in hers. They are each asked how often they have sex.

"Hardly ever," Allen says plaintively. "Maybe three times a week." "Constantly," Keaton groans. "I'd say three times a week."

That's the scene that everyone remembers even 30 years after the movie was released. It touches on a great truth about relationships - that after the first lusty years are over, most men want more sex than their female partners. Of course, it's not always the case. There are passionate women who never lose interest and some men who do. But if we walked through the streets of Australia asking who's not getting enough, there'd be ever so many more male hands than female hands waving in the air.

In 2006, the BBC reported: "A woman's sex drive begins to plummet once she is in a secure relationship. Researchers from Germany found that, four years into a relationship, less than half of 30-year-old women wanted regular sex." There's still a steady stream of such stories, news reports suggesting that women go off sex. All over the world, researchers are scurrying around to try to pin down the cause. Is it to do with hormones, or brain chemistry? Is it part of an evolutionary legacy? But there's no doubt it happens, and everyone knows it. It has entered our marital folklore and become an accepted part of our personal dynamics. Hang around a pub for long enough and you'll hear the jokes about the fallout, the sexually starved men.

From the time I started working as a sex therapist back in the early 1970s, people have been talking to me about their sex lives. What I hear about most is the business of negotiating the sex supply. How do couples deal with the strain of the man wishing and hoping while all she longs for is the bliss of uninterrupted sleep? It's a night-time drama being played out in bedrooms everywhere, the source of great tension and unhappiness.

But this drama is usually a silent movie, with couples rarely talking about the subtle negotiation that goes on between them. His calculations: "What if I ...? Will she then ...?" Her tactics: dropping her book as he appears at the bedroom door and feigning sleep; staying up late in the hope that he'll doze off. Tensions. Resentment. Guilt. And then there are the rare couples who magically maintain mutual lust for each other.

To find out how couples deal with all this, I set up a research project. Through radio interviews and magazine articles, I recruited 98 couples to spend six to nine months keeping diaries for me, writing about their daily negotiations over sex. They are couples of all ages, from 20-year-old students to people in their 70s who have been married for more than 40 years - young couples at the start of their relationships; pregnant women; couples caught up in the exhaustion of young families; women who want more sex than their husbands and women who'd live happily without it; older couples dealing with health issues like prostate surgery and arthritis. Some wrote every day for months - one man ended up providing over 70 pages of details of his love-life - while others provided only brief weekly summaries. As I expected, women rationing sex took centre stage.

Women know their loss of sexual drive is a huge issue in their relationships. Many wrote saying they can't bear what it is doing to their men. They understand their resentment but they feel they can't help it; they just rarely want sex any more. "I hate it that I don't have a sex drive like before. I would do anything ... well, almost anything," wrote Nadia, 41, from Sydney.

Listen to Judy. "If there's an OFF switch in the female body, mine was turned many years ago," wrote the 58-year-old from Bathurst, NSW, explaining that sex has been the single most divisive issue in her 27-year marriage. Her husband has a strong drive and used to want sex twice a day, but hers has always been low: "I'm actually quite inhibited, and generally find sex and everything that goes with it a big yawn. [It's] right up there with algebra, housework and trying on bras!" They have fought about sex for years and she's finally persuaded him to back off a little. Now they are down to having it a few times a week. "I'd still rather read a book," she said.

Judy knows how much it hurts him that she's not interested. "The hardest thing is that he knows I don't enjoy it. It drives him to distraction. There is always a tension there, though it's never actually stopped him doing it! ... When he finishes, he's always got a kind of 'pissed off' vibe, and, believe me, I totally understand, but gosh I wish I got the same kind of understanding for where I'm at." She added, sadly: "It seems most partnerships are terribly out of sync. How nice to be in harmony with desire. Does it exist?"

Oh yes, it exists. "I have no recollection of ever being refused sex," wrote Rob, a man from Perth, married for more than 44 years. He explained that his wife Jenny's enjoyment of lovemaking has always been as fulfilling as his, and describes it as an integral part of their loving relationship.

From the time that I first started talking about sex on television and radio, the couples who really love sex have reached out to me. I remember buying a ticket at an airport when a 50-ish saleswoman looked left and right, leaned over to me and whispered, "Isn't sex wonderful!" I have long known about the lusty couples who spend a remarkable amount of their lives between the sheets. They are the lucky ones. They are rare and sadly outnumbered by the men and women who struggle, day after day, with the corrosive effect on their relationship of women's low libidos.

With my sex diaries, it was the men's stories that really set me back on my heels. It is so rare that men talk openly about such personal issues, but the diaries gave them permission to let loose. Every day I received page after page of eloquent, often immensely sad diary material, as men grasped the opportunity to talk about what quickly emerged as a mighty emotional issue for them. Men might tell jokes about sexually deprived husbands, but talk to them privately and they aren't laughing. Many feel duped, disappointed, in despair at finding themselves spending their lives begging for sex from their loved partners. They are stunned to find their needs so totally ignored. It often poured out in a howl of rage and disappointment.

Andrew from Queanbeyan, NSW, is 41 years old, has been married for six years to Lorraine, and has two girls aged four and two. The couple started off having sex every day, sometimes twice a day, but sex has been on the decline ever since. Now Andrew is lucky to have sex once every five to six months. He's a very upset man: "I am totally at a loss as to what to do. I do love her and I think she loves me but I cannot live like a monk. I am at breaking point ... What makes women think that halfway through the game they can change the rules to suit themselves and expect the male to take it? ... i just do not get it!!!!!!!"

Bettina Arndt - Edited extract from The Sex Diaries: Why Women Go Off Sex and Other Bedroom Battles by Bettina Arndt, published by Melbourne University Press on March 2 (rrp $34.95). Names have been changed throughout.